Happy Vesak Day, Peeps! :)I manage to sleep in alittle today. Last night was pretty much of a good night. :) Thou my hubby was on night duty, I've got a couple of great companions (Zhen Xin and Mike). They dropped by to pass me a pair of shoes they bought for Landis, and we chatted for bout an hour when suddenly heads popped out of my window!!! :) Surprisingly, my siblings popped by to eat supper with me!!! PRATAS with CURRY at 11pm (the cause of my tummy ache this morning! LOL!)!!! :) And of cos, we chatted till early dawn. :D I seriously loveeee them to bits!!!! :)Something reflective happened yesterday. My mum's customer came by, together with her mum; who seem alittle mental unwell. Her daughter was there to tailor more clothes for her mum and at the same time bringing her around leisurely. After they left, I told my mum, "This is what we called 'unconditional love', isn't it? Look, her daughter doesn't care bout how people look at them and still spend TIME and LOVE on her mum this way. Most people we know will either grumble is too troublesome to bring the elderly out or practically keep them shut at home or worst, old folks home." Distinctively at the same moment, an incident my mum told me years back strike me. Previously, at a wet market near our workplace, a blind elderly lady was abandoned by her son and her daughter-in-law. They drove her from their home (which was nowhere near the East) to that specify wet-market and asked her to wait for them while they shop for groceries. She sat waited and waited till the NEXT day. When some of the stall owners saw her in the morning, they asked her how come she was still there? She told them that her son and daughter-in-law had asked her to wait for them while they buy the groceries and she was wondering what was taking them so long. When the stall owners told her that she had already sat there for a day, she burst-ed into tears! A police report was made and guess what? Her son WAS actually a SCHOOL PRINCIPAL!!! Notice I use WAS, cos after this incident he was terminated! How can a child be so heartless to abandon his own parent? How can he sleep at night? After suffering so long to bring him up and this is how he repay her by dumping her in a wet-market? I tear even when I think bout it. My mum knew it hit my weak spot and she told me that this is LIFE. An elderly once told her, IF you've a filial son and good daughter-in-law, you're blessed.
IF you've a filial son BUT a difficult daughter-in-law, your life will be hard.
IF you've an unfilial son and a difficult daughter-in-law, your life's cursed.
IF you've an unfilial son BUT a good daughter-in-law, you're safe.
(That goes with the same saying of a daughter as well.)
I made my conclusion, but it's more to my personal thoughts. I feel it's not on how well educated, rich and powerful a person maybe. I think is more to the character and the goodness of a person. Yes, some may say that goodness is inborn, but I think goodness can be cultivated as well. BUT of cos I do understand that there are sacrifices that have to be made when we're talking about being FILIAL. Its NOT just talks or even by giving our parents money monthly. Its so much more than that. All in all, is just a simple question to ourselves. Are you WILLING to put your parents' thoughts and welfare before yourself, LOVE them and ACCEPT them even when old age handicapped their life and need to depend on you till their souls rest? Well, my answer is for me to know and this's for you to be honest to yourself. :)
